Aarakshan, a movie with a motive, a movie by Prakash Jha, left me totally unimpressed. It was a confused attempt on reservations, it’s issues and possible ways to “manage” it – since there are no solutions really. The first two … Continue reading
We are expected to be super moms these days, instead of admitting that we have flaws. It is tempting to believe that all mothers wake up feeling fresh every morning, never raise their voices and are equally at ease with the CEO and PTA. Do such mothers exist? Most of us (even if we’d never confess) are struggling to find 5minutes for ourselves.
Real mothers wonder why experts have their acts together when they themselves arely keep their heads above the stormy seas of parenthood. Real mothers know that it is ok to eat cold pizza for breakfast. Real mothers don’t just listen with humble embarrassment to the lady who offers unsolicited advice when the child is throwing a tantrum. We take the child, dump the child in her arms and say ‘Great! maybe you can do a better job!’
Real mothers admit it is easier to fail at this job than to suceed. If parenting is a box of cornflakes, then real mothers know that the ration of flakes to fun (freebies) is severly imbalanced. For every moment that your child confides in you or tells you she loves you, or does something kind unprompted, there are many more moments of chaos, error and self doubt.
Rest easy real mothers. The very fact that you worry about being a good mom means that you already are one!!
(Reproduced in parts from House Rules by Jodi Picoult)